Tragic: Author and poet Maya Angelou was found dead in her home in North Carolina on Wednesday

Civil rights activist, groundbreaking poet and author who wrote "I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings" Maya Angelou is dead at 86.

According to reports, a caretaker found her dead at her home in Winston-Salem, North Carolina, this morning, 28th May 2014.

She had been struggling with health problems in recent weeks and had recently canceled a May 30 appearance at the 2014 MLB Beacon Award Luncheon in Houston, where she was to be honored with the 'Beacon Life Award.'

The civil rights icon blamed her failing health for missing the event.

An official at the Winston-Salem mayor's office confirmed that the poet had passed away.

Angelou has been celebrated as one of the greatest writers of her generation, bringing light to the struggles of women and African Americans -- as well as  the human condition, at large.

She was the first African American woman to be honored with a Pulitzer Prize and had received countless other accolades for her work including  the Presidential Medal of Freedom, for her collected works of poetry, fiction and nonfiction, including her groundbreaking memoir, I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings, which made history as one of the first nonfiction best-sellers by an African-American woman.

The famed author has received more than 30 honorary degrees from universities around the world.  She published 7 autobiographies, 3 books of essays, and several books of poetry, and is credited with a list of plays, movies,and television shows spanning more than 50 years.

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
-Maya Angelou

Nothing will work unless you do.
-Maya Angelou

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
-Maya Angelou

If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.
-Maya Angelou

I first learnt about Maya Angelou many years ago through her quotes, but I became even more familiar and fascinated with her work after she was featured by actor/producer Tyler Perry in on one of his Madea movies.

She was indeed an Icon. May her soul rest in peace, Amen. 

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10 Obvious Fact To Know When A Guy Is Flirting With You

Have you ever wonder how to know if that nice guy is flirting with you? There are a few proven ways that can tell you if he is interested in you. While some people says it’s difficult to read body language at times, it’s possible if you know where to start. Having read a few books about body languages and psychology of men, I will be sharing with Us some 10 ways that men unconsciously and even consciously let you know that they like you. Take a look, see what you see and maybe you might have ignored the signs. 

Happy reading!

1. Lovely smile

A lovely smile is actually a good sign and, when it comes to flirting, it’s one of the surest signs he is interested in you. If you notice that he is smiling at you, there’s a good chance he likes you and wants to approach you. Maybe he is shy, so why not show him your confidence and courage by approaching him first? Of course, if you like him. After all, there is nothing to be ashamed of if you approach a man first. Just smile back, initiate a conversation with him and don’t try to play hard to get. Playing hard to get is a great boost, but often it’s a big turn off for guys.

2. Shy blush

Perhaps you know how it’s difficult to flirt with shy guys, but it doesn’t mean that you should avoid such type of man. If you notice that a guy blushes around you, this is one of the most obvious signs he is trying to flirt with you. However, not only do shy guys blush, any guy can actually blush when he sees a beautiful girl. Blushing is a bodily function that we can’t control and if he blushes around you, he certainly likes you.

3. Eye contact

This sign is a little bit tricky, but surely worth paying attention to. Eye contactis important during communication and we need to use this form of body language as often as we can. Depending on how long a man holds an eye contact with you, you can find out whether or not he likes you. If he holds an eye contact with you for longer than an average person, it might be a sign he is interested in you. We all make an eye contact when flirting, right? It’s the same for guys. If a guy holds a short eye contact, he might also flirt with you, he is just a bit shy.

4. Mirroring

You might want to ask what is mirroring?. The thing is sometimes men mirror woman’s actions without even knowing it.Mirroring is another sign he is flirting with you. This ranges from mirroring blink rates to mirroring manner of speaking. For instance, you are laughing and he is laughing as well. The thing is, it’s natural for us to mirror something we love. Besides, a lot of singles dating websites advise guys to use mirroring technique when flirting with girls, maybe your crush does this too.

5. Hands on hips

If he stands with his hands on the hips or places the thumbs in the belt loops, chances are that he might be interested in you. This way, he is trying to show you he is confident man and simply true macho. I personally don't like it when guys uses this way while flirting with ladies, but still it's one of the signs he is truly flirting with you. 

6. A flirting touch

If your crush touches you, it’s definitely a sign he likes you. But, when a guy touches you accidentally, this is absolutely another sign to watch for. It means the guy is trying to get your attention and find any excuse to continue conversation with you. Do you like that guy? If yes, flirt back! Most girls ignore this important sign, but you shouldn’t do it. After all, he might be your hubby!

7. Head Tilts

The way a man tilts his head can also signify that he likes you. If he tilts the head towards you, this means he’s listening attentively to each word you say. This also means he’s really attuned to what you are talking about and he’s really interested in conversation with you. I love that amazing feeling when a man is listening to me. I always appreciate it, even if I’m not interested in that man.

8. Dilated pupils

Sometimes our eyes give us away when we don’t want them to. When we are attracted to someone or something our pupils dilate and they become larger. When we don’t like someone or something, our pupils contract. If you notice that the eyes of the guy keep dilating, it’s one of the most obvious signs he adores you and is highly interested in you.

9. Raised eyebrows

You crush may hide his eyes when he is around you because he likes you. He can keep his eyebrows a little bit raised as well. If his eyes are widened and his eyebrows remain raised while you’re talking, this is definite sign he is flirting with you. Watch for it and you’ll surely see it!

10. Fidgeting

Do you fidget when you are around the guy you like? I’m pretty sure you do and it’s okay. You are just nervous and it’s actually a good nervous. It’s all about expectation since you don’t know whether or not he is interested in you. If you see him fidgeting, this is because he’s interested in you and he is a bit nervous to start conversation with you.

Now that you’re aware of the signs he is flirting with you. Am guessing you won't let those signs slip away the next time you are with someone you might be interested in. Do you know any other signs of flirting that I should have added to this list, we will be glad to add to the list. 

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President Jonathan Message As Nigeria Marks it's Democracy Day

Fellow Nigerians,

1. I greet and felicitate with you all, today, as we mark 15 years of uninterrupted democratic governance in our beloved country.

2. Our dear nation, Nigeria, has certainly come a long way and made notable progress since our first Democracy Day on May 29, 1999 when the military finally relinquished power and handed over to a democratically-elected government, marking the true beginning of a government of the people, by the people, for the people."

3. Although I have ordered a low-key commemoration of this year's Democracy Day in deference to the current mood of the nation, there can be no doubt that the past 15 years, the longest period of sustained democratic governance in our country, have been a blessing to us, as a people.

4. As we commemorate 15 years of our Fourth Republic today therefore, I believe that it is fitting that we pay tribute once again to all those who played a part in restoring our nation to the true path of democratic governance, built on the foundations of rule of law and freedom of expression.

5. As a result of our collective efforts since 1999, democratic governance is now entrenched in our nation and institutions. I wholeheartedly believe that our people are the better for it. The scope of fundamental rights and liberties enjoyed by our people overthe past 15 years has been expanded beyond measure.

6. On my watch, we have witnessed high national economic growth rates, steady improvements and expansion of national infrastructure including airports and roads, the restoration of rail transportation, the efficient implementation of a roadmap for improved power supply, a revolutionary approach to agricultural production, as well as advances in education, sports, youth development, healthcare delivery, housing, water supply and other social services.

7. In the oil and gas sector, our promotion of a sustainable local content policy, continues to guarantee equity and better opportunities for Nigerian entrepreneurs and skilled personnel.

8. Significant increase in mobile telephoneand national broadband penetration, making Information and Communications Technology (ICT) one of the fastest growing sectors of the Nigerian economy. We have also developed strong financial markets and regulatory institutions. Our banks now have regional and global footprints.

9. Nigeria has also gained recognition as the largest economy in Africa, the most preferred investment destination in the continent and in terms of returns on investment, the fourth in the world. We are pleased that the world has noticed, as global leaders converged in Abuja early this month for the World Economic Forum in Africa.

10. The event not only witnessed a record attendance, it brought the prospect of an additional flow of investment into the Nigerian economy estimated at over $68 billion over the next few years.

11. In foreign relations, our country has equally done well within this period, by establishing and strengthening strong partnerships with all ECOWAS countries and the rest of the world. This has helped to deepen Nigeria's leadership role in multilateral institutions including the United Nations.

12. Furthermore, under this administration, we have made consistent progress in improving the standard of elections in our country to ensure that they are ever more credible and truly representative of the people's free choice. The National Conference we initiated to deliberate and make recommendations on the best ways of resolving our current political and socio-economic challenges is ongoing. It is our expectation that its outcomes will help to further consolidate the gains we have made from democracy in the past 15 years, and place our dear nation even more firmly on the path to greatness.

Dear Compatriots,

13. It is a sad fact that as I address you today, all the gains of the past 15 years of democratic governance in our country are threatened by the presence of international terrorism on our shores. Our dear country, Nigeria is facing a new challenge. A war has been unleashed on us. Extremist foreign elements, collaborating with some of our misguided citizens, are focused on an attempt to bring down our country and the democracy and freedomwe cherish and celebrate today.

14. The despicable abduction of school girls from Chibok in Borno State has brought to the awareness of the entire world, the heartless brutality of these terrorists who want to instigate a descent into anarchy and balkanize our nation.

15. In recent years, terrorist attacks have claimed the lives of several of our compatriots, many have been injured or maimed, whole villages and communities have been destroyed and the economy of some of our states is in jeopardy.

16. There can be no doubt that what we are witnessing in Nigeria today is a manifestation of the same warped and ferocious world view that brought down the Twin Towers in New York, killed innocent persons in Boston and led to the murder of defenceless people in the Southern Russian city of Volgograd. Terrorist activities have brought war and pains to Mali, Somalia, Yemen, Syria, Afghanistan and Pakistan. These agents of evil continue to brainwash and incite ignorant young men and women to attack the innocent. We cannot allow this to continue.

17. I welcome the statements of solidarity from patriotic citizens and the global community in support of our efforts to stamp out terrorism. I applaud the understanding that in a democracy, such as we are building, people can have differences while sharing worthy values and standing together in opposition to the scourge of terrorism. Nigeria is the only country we have and we must all work to preserve it for present and future generations.

18. Despite the challenges we face, we must commend our security forces. We must not forget their gallantry and successes in liberating nations and in peacekeeping, from Liberia to Sierra Leone, Congo, Sudan, Mali, Guinea-Bissau and many places in Africa and beyond. Our forces have paid the supreme price in several places at several times.

19. Today, they face a different challenge, an unconventional war by terrorists. They are adjusting and are being equipped to tackle the new menace of terrorism. We must show confidence in their ability. I have no doubt that, with the support of Nigerians, our neighbours and the international community, we will reinforce our defence, free our girls and rid Nigeria of terrorists.

20. It is now 45 days since the horrifying abduction of the college girls of Chibok. I share the deep pain and anxiety of their parents and guardians and I assure them once again that government will continue to do everything possible to bring our daughters home.

21. I am determined to protect our democracy, our national unity and our political stability, by waging a total war against terrorism. The unity and stability of our country, and the protection of lives and property are non-negotiable. I have instructed our security forces to launch a full-scale operation to put an end to the impunity of terrorists on our soil.

22. I have also authorized the security forces to use any means necessary under the law to ensure that this is done. I assure you that Nigeria will be safe again, and that these thugs will be driven away – it will not happen overnight, but we will spare no effort to achieve this goal.

23. For our citizens who have joined hands with Al Qaeda and international terrorists in the misguided belief that violence can possibly solve their problems, our doors remain open to them for dialogue and reconciliation, if they renounce terrorism and embrace peace.

24. My government, while pursuing security measures, will explore all options, including readiness to accept unconditional renunciation of violence by insurgents, and to ensure their de-radicalization, rehabilitation and re-integration into the broader society.

Dear Compatriots,

25. We must remain united to win the war against terrorism. Christians, Moslems, farmers, fishermen, herdsmen, teachers, lawyers, clergy or clerics, the rich, the poor and Nigerians from all sections of the country must work together with our security agencies and armed forces to overcome the terrorists who now threaten all that we hold dear.

26. The war against terror may be difficult, but the days of peace will come again. Terror is evil; nowhere in history has evil endured forever. The menace of Boko Haram will surely come to an end. I believe that because of your prayers, your courage, hardwork, faith and sacrifice, we will ultimately prevail over the terrorists and all other evil forces.

27. We are a strong, resilient and courageous people. We will continue to partner with the civilized world, to confront international terrorism and every other challenge that comes our way with patriotic zeal and determination.

Fellow Nigerians,

28. Yes, we have challenges but we will surely overcome. Nigeria is our country. Nigeria is blessed. We will all collectively protect, defend and develop this country for ourselves, and our children.

29. Long live the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

30. Thank you and God bless Nigeria.

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How To Know He/She Is The Right One

Having read this on a friend blog earlier today, I felt it will be greedy of yours thusly not to share in this nugget, which I believe will be of vital value to someone out there... Our Readers. I hope we all have a good resting week. As you read, do not forget to share, and drop your comment. Enjoy!

A few unsuccessful relationships into your dating life and you begin to wish there was some kind of physical sign to show you when you’ve met the right person. Whether that’s an actual sign that flashes over their head, or some sort of badge the person in question has to wear, we’re not sure. But if only, right?

We’ve done some research, and no one’s invented this yet. But, we know there are some sure fire – but subtler – ways to know whether your partner is for keeps. It’s far too easy to persuade yourself that Mr/Ms Right Now is Mr /Ms Right because they’re in the right place at the right time, and they seem ok. But in reality, you’re dooming yourself to failure with that approach. Your relationship with The One should feel completely right – after all, you’re probably looking to spend the rest of your life with them.

This isn’t a shopping list of the type we joke about with friends; ‘she should have long legs’ or ‘he should have dark brown eyes’. It’s about the things that really matter for a long-lasting, happy relationship:.

1. You trust each other 

Trust is an essential pillar in any relationship. You have to trust each other to make the right decisions about your relationship. If there’s no trust, everything else is irrelevant. Ask yourself if you trust your partner will always do the right thing by you. If the answer’s yes, then you’re ahead of the curve.

2. Your relationship makes you both better people

A relationship is a partnership, full of shared experience and built on a foundation of mutual support. Your relationship should make you want to be – and actually be – a better person. At the same time you should also be able to confidently say you encourage your partner to be a better person too. Whether this is in their career choices, leading a healthy lifestyle, taking up new hobbies or calling relatives more often, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you make a visible, positive impact upon each other.

3. Your share the same ideas about how to live your lives

People love to say ‘opposites attract’ and in the early days of a relationship this is very true. After all, who doesn’t love the excitement of the unknown? But, when you’re thinking long term, you want to be thinking about someone who has the same life view as you. This can be anything – from a desire to settle in the country with a nice house and 3 kids, or a dream of giving it all up to move to Australia and live on a ranch – it doesn’t matter, as long as your ideas converge. The same goes for your spiritual beliefs, sense of humour and even your intellect. Compatibility on these levels will ensure a long future together.

4. You laugh together

Forget all that stuff about amazing sexual chemistry (though that’s great), or whether you both like cheese. Your ability to have fun together and laugh at the same things is incredibly important. For one thing, if you can have fun together just ‘being’ (i.e. without spending money, or going somewhere special) it’ll stand you in great stead in the tough times. For another thing, there’s nothing like laughter to bring a couple together. It can break the frostiest of moods, and best of all it’s free!

5. You communicate

Communication is right up there with trust in a relationship. Do you feel you can talk to your partner when something is bothering you? Do you feel like you can share your deepest secrets with your partner? If this person is going to be The One, then you’re going to need to answer yes to both those questions. Similarly, do you have the capacity to speak in a caring, non-judgemental way, even when your partner has done something to really rile you? By doing so, you show your deep compassion for your partner that can’t be suppressed by the irritations of everyday life.

-via RomancemeetsLife

Hope you enjoy, don't forget to share, comment and Like! Till then ciao, have a splendid start of the week tomorrow (Monday). 

Book Review Wednesday: "Half Of A Yellow Sun"- Chimamanda Ngozi Adechei

Half of a Yellow Sun is the second novel by the Nigerian author, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. I was introduced into the author’s world of fiction through her short stories. One of her first stories I read, ‘You in America’ actually motivated and urged me on to find more of her works. Fortunately, I laid hands on her first debut novel, Purple Hibiscus and immediately liked it. Here she is with her ground-breaking second novel. I will tell you why I say so.

Right from the onset, we follow the life of the poor village boy, Ugwu, whose aunty finds him a job in the home of a university professor, Odenigbo. Once Ugwu has relocated from the village to the Professor’s environment, we witness the trait Ugwu brings from the village through his actions and characterization.

As the novel advances, we meet such pivotal characters like the twin sisters (Olanna and Kainene), Richard (an Englishman and an aspiring writer) and Odenigbo (the university Professor). Olanna and Kainene had just returned from the United Kingdom to Nigeria after their long academic stay. When they had arrived in their home country, Nigeria, they carried along many hopes, expectations and anticipations. Olanna carried the hope of becoming a university lecturer; a job his revolutionary lover, Odenigbo, was already engaged in. Kainene, on the other outlook, was burdened with the hope of taking over the family business. Before these dreams and hopes could fully be realized, there is a coup that would later lead to succession of annihilation, obliteration and then warfare. The warfare, also known as the Nigerian-Biafra warfare spans a period of three year thus between the year 1967 to 1970. I must admit that I admire this book for one major reason. Although the core of the theme of the story is about the Nigerian-Biafra war, the author does so well to keep most of the excesses one would expect of a war novel to the background and then concentrates much on the effects that the war had over the characters. The novel brings to the foreground the life of a people who are trapped in a political war, almost like any other insect other than the spider caught in a spider web.

The history of the existence of the war could not be overlooked at: a war much more of any other thing than political. It is mostly after the war that we see its economic and socio-economic effects on both the major and minor characters. The war erupts when the Igbo’s came to the realization that the Hausas are given leading roles in government and they (the Hausas) also thought that the Igbo’s wanted to take over the entire Nigerian governance. These misunderstandings between the two factions suddenly led to the overthrow of the Hausa government by the Igbo-led military.

Any reader of Half of a Yellow Sun is quick to come to terms with the fact that war is not good for any country at any particular time. During the Biafra war, we see the caios; disorder and tensions build up among the characters and the society in which they live. We see that whether the village community or the literates in the society are all caught up with the struggles and disappointments that the war brings. In the midst of the war, we see that the poor villager, Ugwu shares and eat the same kind of food, drink the same kind of water and other resources that are limited at the time of the war with the elite and well-to-do group like Professor Odenigbo, the twin sisters Olanna and Kainene, Okeoma among others.

The novel is divided into four main parts thus, Early Sixties, Late Sixties, Early Sixties and Late Sixties. The way the novel is divided helps to build an increasing suspense through the actions of the characters and this helps the reader to read along without boredom. For instance, an action that would have occurred earlier on in one part of the division of the novel is better understood at another part of another division. Although the novel has these divisions, the author does so well to carry a single narrative which is at once masterly and artistic.

Half of a Yellow Sun is a book I will not hesitate to recommend to anyone who wants to read a good story. The author is a daring and bold writer who writes with a good ear about the past so well that one wonders if she had ever lived in the past in which she is writing.

You can check the okada.com bookstore for a copy or Amazon.com

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Photo Of The Day!

Our Benin beauty... Princess Osahon. Isn't she gorgeous?

To share your picture on the Photo of the day plate form, inbox your name, where you are from and your hobby, along size a portrait of you to info.posche@gmail.com. Someone out there is waiting to discover you! 

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BEAUTIFUL SKIN? THIS JUICE IS GOOD!

Drink your way to a finer skin this Summer. This combination of juice contain all the relevant ingredients for enhancing your skin's texture and elasticity. Lycopene in tomatoes can enhance the skin’s ability to protect against harmful UV rays. 

The high quality vitamin A, C and phytonutrients in carrot and cucumber juice will nourish the skin, fight dry skin, skin diseases and other skin blemishes. 

JUICE RECIPE:

- 3 carrots

- 3 tomatoes

- 1 cucumber 

Throw them into a blender & blend them into a nourishing smoothie. Drink your way to fine skin, especially in this hot summer. 

Enjoy!!

Culled: Eat Right, and Stay Healthy

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How To Get Ride Of Acne/Pimples

Getting rid of acne/pimples is not an easy task, however there are some homemade tools that could help to relieve this. I have tried at home myself and I think it will be of help to those who are finding it difficult to get off their acne/pimples, hence sharing.  You can try the followings: 

Ice 
Use ice quickly on a newly rising pimple to soothe it. This will help improve blood circulation to the affected area and will also freeze the skin pores. It also helps remove dirt and oil collected on the skin, thereby healing the pimple.

Lemon

Lemon juice is rich in vitamin C and is extremely effective in getting rid of pimples. Lemon juice helps the pimple dry up fast. You can directly use a little lemon juice on a cotton swab and apply it on your face before bed and wash it off the next morning.

Toothpaste

Many people have sworn about the effectiveness of toothpaste on a pimple. Use a little toothpaste on the pimple before bed and allow it to stay overnight then wash it off in the morning. You will see a significant reduction in the size and swelling of the pimple.

Tomato

Tomato is high in antioxidants and acts as an amazing natural astringent to treat inflamed pimples. Just dab a little tomato juice on the affected area and allow it to stay on for about 20 minutes before you wash it off.

Garlic

Garlic has antiviral, antifungal, antiseptic and antioxidant properties, which can help treat pimples. Freshly cut garlic can effectively help heal pimples quickly. Cut up fresh garlic and rub it on your pimples for five minutes before washing your skin with lukewarm water. Repeat this routine several times to keep your skin pimple free.

Honey: 

Honey is a very useful and beneficial in a lot of ways, though a added sweetener you can actually use to cure ande care for that acute acne and pimples. Add a little portion of honey on a cotton bud. Add a little of lemon. Then place on the affected part where there is acne/pimples. Leave for 15minutes. Then wash off with Luke warm water. A consistent use if this process at least twice daily within 2weeks will give you that glow and fresh free acne/pimple skin.

Turmeric: 

Turmeric can be taken orally or applied externally. It has been found to be high in anti-oxidant. It is essential to use in little concentration if you intend to go out into the Sun within 48hours of its application. However, turmeric mixed with a little water then applied to the skin will do the magic of getting rid of acne/pimples.

I hope you try this and let us know what your outcome were. Don't forget to Share, Comment and Like!

Ciao! 

Five signs To Note If Your Lady Is Really Into You!

Having recently consulted some astute researchers, I am please to share with us some of the result I have discovered some of the surest signs to know if she love you and really want to spend the future with you. 

You have met this hot lady in a miniskirt. You almost cricked your neck to have a glance at her.  She is waddling like a lame duck.  Omg you whispers, she is the woman of your dreams, just the perfect woman you want to have. Let’s just say, you hope of kissing away that shadow of bachelorhood and spending the rest of your life with her. And what do you do? You complimented her and use the slimest opportunity to ask for her number. In no time you became friends. 

After days, months and even years of dating, you are still oblivious whether she got a "Liking" for you. Well, I did ransack through my mind. Worry no more as I will be sharing with you, the basic signs to watch out for to know that lady is into you, and do like you as much as you do. Please enjoy! 

First thing you notice is: 

She will spare time for you

You’ve exchanged contacts and soon you realize she kept your number like an artifact in that museum (read phonebook). She doesn’t bother dialing you instead she has pushed the ball to your court. There is this cliché that women are good in juggling with so many tasks at a go. Henceforth, no matter how busy a woman might be, she will always be there for you.

She then; 

Introduces you to people around her

At nascent stages of your courtship, she will introduce you to her friends. She is not ashamed of having you as part of her life. You know you have hit the bull’s eye when she introduces you to your brother-in-law elect or even her mother.

She will talk to you

You can gauge her commitment through how she treats you. Is she taking for a ride? Does she respond to your short text messages? Well, if it a resounding no...Call your shots. Don’t waste your precious time building magnificent castles in the air. There 70% chance there is another man in her life, so boof off. 

She likes what you like

She knows the genre of food, the perfume or even hairstyle you like. No Naija men adores a woman that exposes so much of her feminity. (Please note that if they tell you otherwise know that they are lying at you). He’s just enduring through this hell of the stench from what he sees. They believe a virtuous woman won't go about dressing naked exposing her "asset" to the world. Anyway this is story for another day. When she is afraid of losing you, she will sacrifice a lot- like absconding that good-for-nothing hairstyle.

 Future 

Are you part of her future? Or has she relegated you to be her escort man accompanying her to (her) Mr. Right? Well, this tale-tale way that you need to watch out. A woman who suggestively talks of plans of starting a family means you hold her keys to a tomorrow. And a promise of a future together. 

I hope this basic fundamentals will guide your path into knowing if that lady truly and really wants a future with you. If you have any more additional opinion, drop your comment and we sure be willing to add to the list. 

Thanks!

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Skin Care Regime For Women of Color

Black skin is unique in itself and is one of the most dominant features that portrays ethnic beauty. It is for this reason that it is important to maintain a skin care regime to keep your skin looking smooth and cleansed. Black skin tends to be very sensitive and prone to develop issues such as severe dryness and acne so here are some top tips on how to avoid them. Once every three to six months it is advisable to go to a beauty specialist for some special treatment so you'll be able to tell the difference in the long run when your skin begins to show the normal signs of work, stress, sun, alcohol, long working-hours and age. Then again, let's face it, there's nothing more relaxing than getting pampered by a beauty specialist and leaving his/her shop feeling fresh and new with a baby-soft skin. 

If you don't feel like moving from your home you can always check for professionals online that will deliver their services in the comfort of your home whether you're in the US, Canada, Turkey or Nigeria. If you have friends that have already asked for this kind of service you can always call the same person that visits them to make sure you will be happy with the results. But we can't always rely on a beauty specialist. Most of the work must be done by ourselves on a daily basis applying the right skin techniques.

Here are a few tips on how to proceed to always have a young and healthy skin:

1.     It is no secret that no matter what type of ethnic background you have, maintaining a healthy and balanced diet with plenty of water, fruit and vegetables is a simple and effective way into keeping your skin healthy and glowing. Avoid fatty foods that will result in your skin becoming oily and blocking pores.

2.     Cleansing and moisturizing your skin daily is an important factor that will save you a lot of trouble in the long run. If you have dry skin, use a cleanser that will add moisture, hydrate and add a healthy glow.

3.     Although African skin is not as affected by the sun like other skin types such as Caucasian, it is still important to wear moisturizers and sun creams to prevent your skin from drying up. Black skin is very sensitive, especially on the face. The sun cream won’t prevent you from developing darker skin tones, but will just be sure to prevent any burning.

4.     Removing make up at the end of the day is an important tip when it comes to maintaining healthy skin. Any remaining make-up can block pores resulting in acne and spots. Cleansers, especially for make-up removal, should be added to your regimen and  can be purchased at drug stores.

Word Of The Day!

However, it's of importance to note that we should avoid looking for happiness in someone else’s lifestyle. We often fail to understand that our current circumstances are often times the direct results of our past actions. Rather than trying to steal someone else’s sunshine, or lifestyle, we should go and find yours/ours through seeking God's divine guidance. 

#bosydeprincessa says so! Blessed week ahead folks.

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Are You Dating A Player?

How do you know if you are dating a playing, or if the guy you are with is a big time player. Well, Fran Creffield shares with us a few note on that. I hope you enjoy and share with friends, colleague and loved ones. 

Read on:

A player is usually very deceptive and manipulative. When one enters your life you could be forgiven for believing that they are a gift from the gods – that is exactly what they want you to think. Sadly this thin veil of deception often hides low self worth, an inability to form secure attachments and inevitably heartbreak when the deception is exposed.

People who have been single for a long time, are lonely or who are struggling with their own self-esteem are particularly vulnerable to falling for a player but really no-one is exempt. Here are some of the main warning signs which can help you spot a one of these slippery characters if you are unfortunate enough to date one.

In the beginning….

The beginning of a relationship with a player will usually feel like a whirlwind and you may be knocked off your feet by their charm, enthusiasm and interest in your life. They will work hard to make you believe, very quickly, that your life has no value without them.

They will endeavour to be in your life right away helping with problems and offering to be there for you in all sorts of situations. Before long they are in the centre of your life and being charming, endearing and overly helpful with other people as they try to ingratiate themselves with your family and friends too. Look out for boasting, unsubstantiated claims, a lack of information about themselves and flashy or grandiose plans – if it all seems too good to be true, it probably is.

As time goes on…

The aim of a player is to win your affection and the mark that this has happened is often that the relationship becomes sexual – they have achieved their conquest. For others it will be when you say you love them, or in extreme cases, agree to marry them. Whatever the challenge is, once it is achieved the tide turns very suddenly as he or she backs off and you are left wanting. This will turn the tables and you may find yourself spending more money, time, energy and effort than you would normally to lure them back – maybe even compromising your own principals and standards to do so.

You may also begin to realise that you don’t really know very much about them – like where they live or work – and when you start to check out the things they have told you none of it really seems to stand up.

Why are people players?

Most players are looking for a fix for their fragile ego. They will say all the things you want to hear and will feel euphoric with your response because their ego will have got its much needed feeling of power and control. Fundamentally they are scared and feel unlovable so they are drawn to many intense, short relationships rather than longer, more sustained attachments which would expose their vulnerability.

By using their charm, wit and skill to lure you into their trap they will get a temporary feeling of euphoria which – like an addict who needs a fix – gives them relief which soon wears off. They then feel compelled to leave and repeat the whole process again with their next victim – the thrill of the chase; the euphoria in succeeding; the downer when it wears off and the compulsion to do it again even if they are aware that their behaviour is damaging to themselves and those whose lives they touch.

In the end…

The world is full of players – in politics, industry and the arts as much as in everyday life. To a certain extent we are all playing – trying to negotiate relationships and situations so that we get our needs met and feel autonomous in our lives.

A player in the romantic arena is a different matter because they are playing with people’s hearts and emotions and exploiting people’s vulnerability to get what they want. No one wants to be left feeling like a fool and the fear of this stops many people from dating at all.

A much better strategy would be to learn to not give your heart away because someone flatters you and makes you feel a million dollars. Take time to get to know them and listen to your intuition. If someone is overly brash, confident, pushy or asks you to do anything that you feel uncomfortable about – e.g. loaning them money when you have just met – don’t be afraid to cut contact and call customer services.

Culled: RomanceMeetsLife

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The Original Mother’s Day Proclamation!

while countries around the world celebrate their own Mother’s Day at different times throughout the year, several countries, including the United States, Italy, Australia, Belgium, Denmark, Finland, and Turkey celebrate it on the second Sunday of May.

In the United States, the origins of the official holiday go back to 1870, when Julia Ward Howe – an abolitionist best remembered as the poet who wrote “Battle Hymn of the Republic” – worked to establish a Mother’s Peace Day. Howe dedicated the celebration to the eradication of war, and organized festivities in Boston for years.

In 1907, Anna Jarvis, of Philadelphia, began the campaign to have Mother’s Day officially recognized, and in 1914, President Woodrow Wilson did this, proclaiming it a national holiday and a “public expression of our love and reverence for all mothers.”

Today’s commercialized celebration of candy, flowers, gift certificates, and lavish meals at restaurants bears little resemblance to Howe’s original idea. There is nothing wrong with that. But here, for the record’s sake, is the proclamation she wrote in 1870, which explains, in her own impassioned words, the goals of the original holiday.

Arise, all women who have hearts, whether your baptism be that of water or of tears! Say firmly: “We will not have great questions decided by irrelevant agencies, our husbands shall not come to us, reeking with carnage, for caresses and applause.

“Our sons shall not be taken from us to unlearn all that we have been able to teach them of charity, mercy and patience. We women of one country will be too tender of those of another country to allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs.”

From the bosom of the devastated earth a voice goes up with our own. It says, “Disarm, disarm! The sword is not the balance of justice.” Blood does not wipe out dishonor nor violence indicate possession.

As men have often forsaken the plow and the anvil at the summons of war, let women now leave all that may be left of home for a great and earnest day of counsel. Let them meet first, as women, to bewail and commemorate the dead. Let them then solemnly take counsel with each other as to the means whereby the great human family can live in peace, each learning after his own time, the sacred impress, not of Caesar, but of God.

In the name of womanhood and of humanity, I earnestly ask that a general congress of women without limit of nationality may be appointed and held at some place deemed most convenient and at the earliest period consistent with its objects, to promote the alliance of the different nationalities, the amicable settlement of international questions, the great and general interests of peace.

Share with us, how did you celebrate your mothers' day?

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Beautiful Wednesday

Every morning comes with this promise – give the wings of effort to your dreams and your life will be full of bliss. Good morning 

Have a splendid day my beautiful people!

Quotes Of The Week!

"If you are clear about what you want, the world responds 

with clarity."

     --  Loretta Staples

"Fear is nothing except a drain of energy and not a power 

unto itself. Trust in yourself, for therein lies the true power."

     --  Lori Hard

"Enthusiasm finds the opportunities, and energy makes the 

most of them."

     --  Henry Hoskins"

"I couldn't wait for success, so I went ahead without it."

     --  Jonathan Winters

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Happy Mothers' Day!

I celebrate my mother everyday 😘😘, you remain the most selfless, honest and loving person. I am so proud to call you mom, the word of encouragement and daily prayers has build me to the person I am today. You are a true epitome of beautiful woman. As I embark on this journey of life as a mom, I can only aspire to be half as good as you.

On this special day, i want you to know that you mean soo much to me, even though we are separated by ocean, you will always feel soo close . I appreciate and love you! HAPPY MOTHERS DAY! 😘❤️👑🎉🎈🎁

Love lots!

Video:Student of EMU, Northern Cyprus #Bring Back Our Girls#

Following the glamouring by many for the release of the kidnap and hostage of young Nigerian girls in the Northern Eastern part of Nigeria by the Boko Haram, the students of Eastern Mediterranean University, Northern Cyprus joins the rest of the world to air in their voice for the campaign #bringbackourgirls  expressing their heart to the Nigerian government to hasten their drive for the safely return of these girls. Below is a clip of the moment, please enjoy, share till the government do something. 

http://youtu.be/4s-lBPIZR8s

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Book Review Wednesday: "No Longer At Ease"- Chinua Achebe

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Chinua Achebe’s novel, No Longer at Ease, is almost a sequel to his first novel ‘Things Fall Apart’ which particularly dealt with the struggles of a major character called Okonkwo and the society around him at the time of the arrival of the British in Igbo land.

With No longer at Ease, we are introduced to a major character called Obi Okonkwo who is often referred to as Okonkwo’s grandson. The story revolves around Obi Okonkwo who travels from his village to seek for a four year British education in Britain. After his education, he returns back to his village only to be trapped by the corruption that existed in the society around him.

The novel begins with Obi Okonkwo being tried for taking bribe during a time when Obi Okonkwo worked for the Scholarship Board which offered scholarships for deserving students to travel overseas to study. Once Obi Okonkwo has taken over job at the Scholarship board, there is an attempt by a man who tries to offer bribe to Obi Okonkwo so as to obtain a scholarship for his little sister. Obi Okonkwo survives this attempt but he is later visited with a second. The second: Obi Okonkwo is visited by the girl herself and the girl attempts to bribe Obi with sexual favors in return for the scholarship. Again, Obi Okonkwo does not succumb to it.

Before Obi Okonkwo could travel for his four year British education, we are made to understand that it is the members of the Umuofia Progressive Union (UPU) who gather money for Obi’s travel. Obi Okonkwo was to study law as it was the hope of the UPU but we see Obi switch his major to English and so he arrives back in his village with an English certificate in his brief case.

As the novel advances, we see Obi Okonkwo develop a romantic relationship with Clara Okeke. Clara Okeke is an osu or an outcast by her descendants. Obi Okonkwo wanted to marry Clara yet his parents does not agree. Marrying anosu meant going contrary to the traditional set up of the Igbo people. Whiles Obi’s Christian father opposes Obi’s intent; his mother threatens to kill herself should Obi marry an osu. Clara relays to Obi that she is pregnant when Obi had told her of the disagreements by his parent for the two to marry. Obi arranges for an abortion for Clara but Clara gets complications and would not see Obi afterwards.

By the end of the novel, Obi is taking a bribe and he assures himself that that will be last one he would take. He is arrested and then tried as was the case of the opening chapter.

There are so many conclusions any good reader could deduce from the entire novel.

Although the novel was written as early as 1960, the theme of the story is very much alive and still in existence in modern day Nigeria where there is still the prevalent of bribery and corruption. One tends to wonder, sometimes, whether there is any possible hope for total elimination of corruption and bribery on the African continent.

Also, one major lesson any reader would draw from the story is that of traditional setbacks. I do not condemn the belief in the traditions of a particular people at any given time but in as much as some traditions relent to distractions and breakdown of family unity, they must be discouraged. As is the case of Obi Okonkwo and his girlfriend, we see Clara drift herself away when Obi tells her about his parents’ disagreement about their planned marriage. The traditional canker I seek to point out here is that, does a person’s identity as an osu or an outcastdisqualify her from marrying? I found it so disheartening that Obi’s mother would promise to kill herself should Obi marry an osu. What a shame?

I enjoyed reading this novel as very much as the other two in the trilogy. It was a fast read considering the short length of the book yet it carried a strong theme. It is highly recommended. It can be purchase from on the online store at Amazon.com

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