20 Life, and Facts The Successful People Don't Live By. Part-1

We all know how important been successful is all about, however I have noticed and observed with kin enthusiasm in the last decade of my understanding of "success",  some notable misconceptions. Below I will be sharing with us and I hope we will learn one or two things from. Kindly leave your comments and observations in the box below. Happy reading...

1. They don't define success in a monetary term. Most successful people define success as happiness, having a peace of mind, or helping others. They see money as something that brings them comfort and opens doors of opportunities. They realize that money can't buy them happiness. 

2. They don't start their days without plans. Successful people know that in order to stay on top of work and become successful, they need to be disciplined and be smart with how they manage their time. In order to do this, they plan their days ahead, putting together a to-do list at the start of the day  --  what needs to be done and in what order. Not only are they going to make sure that they don't miss out on any important task or meeting, but also optimize their time for the optimal performance. 

3. They don't define "perfection" as their end goal.To successful people, striving for perfection is rather a waste of energy and time because you would be spending your time looking for mistakes and faults to fix. Instead, you should strive for "growth." From one point to another, successful people achieve each goal with growth in mind. 

4. They don't surround themselves with negative people. Pessimistic people, people who whinge and complain, people who procrastinate, and people who find excuses for everything  --  these are the kinds of people that successful people don't surround themselves with. Because the more you hang around these people, the more negative energy you receive. Instead, successful people hang around positive people, driven people, and people inspire them.

5. They don't perceive difficulties as problems. When successful people face a difficulty or an obstacle, they see it as another challenging issue that they need to solve like any other obstacles they've gone through in the past. They believe that these experiences will only make them smarter and stronger. 

6. They don't let failure bring them down. Successful people see failure as a part of growth and an opportunity to learn and make a progress. They believe that no matter how many times they fail, they will get back up again stronger than before.

7. They don't let problems bring them down. If you let your life get weighed down by problems, you're not going to be anything but stressed. And that is the way to having more problems in life. 

When facing a problem, instead of focusing on the problem, you should focus on your action and what you do to make the situation better. By shifting your focus like this, you will feel better and find an even better way to solve the problem.

8. They don't let other people's judgments affect their self-esteem. Successful people don't let themselves and their self-esteem get bogged down by other people's words or judgments. They know what they are worth and what they stand for. They know what they want out of lives, what they are looking for, and they have their own rules for making all that happen for themselves. They don't rely on outside approval. They don't need others to prove their worth. 

9. They don't make excuses.Successful people take responsibility for their mistakes. If things don't go as planned or something goes wrong, they will take responsibility for it and fix the problem. Successful people are determined to get their goals achieved each day  --  no matter big or small. They don't make excuses.

10. They don't envy other people's success. Successful people believe that everyone has the ability to become successful. They believe that the more successful people there are, the better this world will become. Seeing other people succeed doesn't make them envy, but rather makes them feel inspired and motivated.

...there we have it, will continue on our subsequent blog with the second concluding part. Stay tuned, stay successful!

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Book Review Wednesday: "Half Of A Yellow Sun"- Chimamanda Ngozi Adechei

Half of a Yellow Sun is the second novel by the Nigerian author, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. I was introduced into the author’s world of fiction through her short stories. One of her first stories I read, ‘You in America’ actually motivated and urged me on to find more of her works. Fortunately, I laid hands on her first debut novel, Purple Hibiscus and immediately liked it. Here she is with her ground-breaking second novel. I will tell you why I say so.

Right from the onset, we follow the life of the poor village boy, Ugwu, whose aunty finds him a job in the home of a university professor, Odenigbo. Once Ugwu has relocated from the village to the Professor’s environment, we witness the trait Ugwu brings from the village through his actions and characterization.

As the novel advances, we meet such pivotal characters like the twin sisters (Olanna and Kainene), Richard (an Englishman and an aspiring writer) and Odenigbo (the university Professor). Olanna and Kainene had just returned from the United Kingdom to Nigeria after their long academic stay. When they had arrived in their home country, Nigeria, they carried along many hopes, expectations and anticipations. Olanna carried the hope of becoming a university lecturer; a job his revolutionary lover, Odenigbo, was already engaged in. Kainene, on the other outlook, was burdened with the hope of taking over the family business. Before these dreams and hopes could fully be realized, there is a coup that would later lead to succession of annihilation, obliteration and then warfare. The warfare, also known as the Nigerian-Biafra warfare spans a period of three year thus between the year 1967 to 1970. I must admit that I admire this book for one major reason. Although the core of the theme of the story is about the Nigerian-Biafra war, the author does so well to keep most of the excesses one would expect of a war novel to the background and then concentrates much on the effects that the war had over the characters. The novel brings to the foreground the life of a people who are trapped in a political war, almost like any other insect other than the spider caught in a spider web.

The history of the existence of the war could not be overlooked at: a war much more of any other thing than political. It is mostly after the war that we see its economic and socio-economic effects on both the major and minor characters. The war erupts when the Igbo’s came to the realization that the Hausas are given leading roles in government and they (the Hausas) also thought that the Igbo’s wanted to take over the entire Nigerian governance. These misunderstandings between the two factions suddenly led to the overthrow of the Hausa government by the Igbo-led military.

Any reader of Half of a Yellow Sun is quick to come to terms with the fact that war is not good for any country at any particular time. During the Biafra war, we see the caios; disorder and tensions build up among the characters and the society in which they live. We see that whether the village community or the literates in the society are all caught up with the struggles and disappointments that the war brings. In the midst of the war, we see that the poor villager, Ugwu shares and eat the same kind of food, drink the same kind of water and other resources that are limited at the time of the war with the elite and well-to-do group like Professor Odenigbo, the twin sisters Olanna and Kainene, Okeoma among others.

The novel is divided into four main parts thus, Early Sixties, Late Sixties, Early Sixties and Late Sixties. The way the novel is divided helps to build an increasing suspense through the actions of the characters and this helps the reader to read along without boredom. For instance, an action that would have occurred earlier on in one part of the division of the novel is better understood at another part of another division. Although the novel has these divisions, the author does so well to carry a single narrative which is at once masterly and artistic.

Half of a Yellow Sun is a book I will not hesitate to recommend to anyone who wants to read a good story. The author is a daring and bold writer who writes with a good ear about the past so well that one wonders if she had ever lived in the past in which she is writing.

You can check the okada.com bookstore for a copy or Amazon.com

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Book Review Wednesday: "No Longer At Ease"- Chinua Achebe

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Chinua Achebe’s novel, No Longer at Ease, is almost a sequel to his first novel ‘Things Fall Apart’ which particularly dealt with the struggles of a major character called Okonkwo and the society around him at the time of the arrival of the British in Igbo land.

With No longer at Ease, we are introduced to a major character called Obi Okonkwo who is often referred to as Okonkwo’s grandson. The story revolves around Obi Okonkwo who travels from his village to seek for a four year British education in Britain. After his education, he returns back to his village only to be trapped by the corruption that existed in the society around him.

The novel begins with Obi Okonkwo being tried for taking bribe during a time when Obi Okonkwo worked for the Scholarship Board which offered scholarships for deserving students to travel overseas to study. Once Obi Okonkwo has taken over job at the Scholarship board, there is an attempt by a man who tries to offer bribe to Obi Okonkwo so as to obtain a scholarship for his little sister. Obi Okonkwo survives this attempt but he is later visited with a second. The second: Obi Okonkwo is visited by the girl herself and the girl attempts to bribe Obi with sexual favors in return for the scholarship. Again, Obi Okonkwo does not succumb to it.

Before Obi Okonkwo could travel for his four year British education, we are made to understand that it is the members of the Umuofia Progressive Union (UPU) who gather money for Obi’s travel. Obi Okonkwo was to study law as it was the hope of the UPU but we see Obi switch his major to English and so he arrives back in his village with an English certificate in his brief case.

As the novel advances, we see Obi Okonkwo develop a romantic relationship with Clara Okeke. Clara Okeke is an osu or an outcast by her descendants. Obi Okonkwo wanted to marry Clara yet his parents does not agree. Marrying anosu meant going contrary to the traditional set up of the Igbo people. Whiles Obi’s Christian father opposes Obi’s intent; his mother threatens to kill herself should Obi marry an osu. Clara relays to Obi that she is pregnant when Obi had told her of the disagreements by his parent for the two to marry. Obi arranges for an abortion for Clara but Clara gets complications and would not see Obi afterwards.

By the end of the novel, Obi is taking a bribe and he assures himself that that will be last one he would take. He is arrested and then tried as was the case of the opening chapter.

There are so many conclusions any good reader could deduce from the entire novel.

Although the novel was written as early as 1960, the theme of the story is very much alive and still in existence in modern day Nigeria where there is still the prevalent of bribery and corruption. One tends to wonder, sometimes, whether there is any possible hope for total elimination of corruption and bribery on the African continent.

Also, one major lesson any reader would draw from the story is that of traditional setbacks. I do not condemn the belief in the traditions of a particular people at any given time but in as much as some traditions relent to distractions and breakdown of family unity, they must be discouraged. As is the case of Obi Okonkwo and his girlfriend, we see Clara drift herself away when Obi tells her about his parents’ disagreement about their planned marriage. The traditional canker I seek to point out here is that, does a person’s identity as an osu or an outcastdisqualify her from marrying? I found it so disheartening that Obi’s mother would promise to kill herself should Obi marry an osu. What a shame?

I enjoyed reading this novel as very much as the other two in the trilogy. It was a fast read considering the short length of the book yet it carried a strong theme. It is highly recommended. It can be purchase from on the online store at Amazon.com

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Book Review Wednesday: Rat Race - David Owoyemi

A critical look at the subject of the Rat Race, unveiling an uncommon truth about why most people will spend most of their lives working hard for money to meet their needs or wants while failing to pursue their dreams and purpose. The book explains how misconceptions about work, job, wants and money is largely responsible for most people's enslavement in the Rat Race.

To purchase this handful book check on amazon! 

Tshuss...

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Women Empowerment Programme 2013 Happening in Cyprus

Are you a student? Do you live in Northern Cyprus and perhaps unemployed. Now is the time to empower yourself.

The Nigerian Students' Society in conjunction with the Eastern Mediterranean University, Famagusta presents its 1st of its kind 

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Date:  16TH NOV. 2013; 

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