20 Life, and Facts The Successful People Don't Live By. Part-1

We all know how important been successful is all about, however I have noticed and observed with kin enthusiasm in the last decade of my understanding of "success",  some notable misconceptions. Below I will be sharing with us and I hope we will learn one or two things from. Kindly leave your comments and observations in the box below. Happy reading...

1. They don't define success in a monetary term. Most successful people define success as happiness, having a peace of mind, or helping others. They see money as something that brings them comfort and opens doors of opportunities. They realize that money can't buy them happiness. 

2. They don't start their days without plans. Successful people know that in order to stay on top of work and become successful, they need to be disciplined and be smart with how they manage their time. In order to do this, they plan their days ahead, putting together a to-do list at the start of the day  --  what needs to be done and in what order. Not only are they going to make sure that they don't miss out on any important task or meeting, but also optimize their time for the optimal performance. 

3. They don't define "perfection" as their end goal.To successful people, striving for perfection is rather a waste of energy and time because you would be spending your time looking for mistakes and faults to fix. Instead, you should strive for "growth." From one point to another, successful people achieve each goal with growth in mind. 

4. They don't surround themselves with negative people. Pessimistic people, people who whinge and complain, people who procrastinate, and people who find excuses for everything  --  these are the kinds of people that successful people don't surround themselves with. Because the more you hang around these people, the more negative energy you receive. Instead, successful people hang around positive people, driven people, and people inspire them.

5. They don't perceive difficulties as problems. When successful people face a difficulty or an obstacle, they see it as another challenging issue that they need to solve like any other obstacles they've gone through in the past. They believe that these experiences will only make them smarter and stronger. 

6. They don't let failure bring them down. Successful people see failure as a part of growth and an opportunity to learn and make a progress. They believe that no matter how many times they fail, they will get back up again stronger than before.

7. They don't let problems bring them down. If you let your life get weighed down by problems, you're not going to be anything but stressed. And that is the way to having more problems in life. 

When facing a problem, instead of focusing on the problem, you should focus on your action and what you do to make the situation better. By shifting your focus like this, you will feel better and find an even better way to solve the problem.

8. They don't let other people's judgments affect their self-esteem. Successful people don't let themselves and their self-esteem get bogged down by other people's words or judgments. They know what they are worth and what they stand for. They know what they want out of lives, what they are looking for, and they have their own rules for making all that happen for themselves. They don't rely on outside approval. They don't need others to prove their worth. 

9. They don't make excuses.Successful people take responsibility for their mistakes. If things don't go as planned or something goes wrong, they will take responsibility for it and fix the problem. Successful people are determined to get their goals achieved each day  --  no matter big or small. They don't make excuses.

10. They don't envy other people's success. Successful people believe that everyone has the ability to become successful. They believe that the more successful people there are, the better this world will become. Seeing other people succeed doesn't make them envy, but rather makes them feel inspired and motivated.

...there we have it, will continue on our subsequent blog with the second concluding part. Stay tuned, stay successful!

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How To Get Ride Of Acne/Pimples

Getting rid of acne/pimples is not an easy task, however there are some homemade tools that could help to relieve this. I have tried at home myself and I think it will be of help to those who are finding it difficult to get off their acne/pimples, hence sharing.  You can try the followings: 

Ice 
Use ice quickly on a newly rising pimple to soothe it. This will help improve blood circulation to the affected area and will also freeze the skin pores. It also helps remove dirt and oil collected on the skin, thereby healing the pimple.

Lemon

Lemon juice is rich in vitamin C and is extremely effective in getting rid of pimples. Lemon juice helps the pimple dry up fast. You can directly use a little lemon juice on a cotton swab and apply it on your face before bed and wash it off the next morning.

Toothpaste

Many people have sworn about the effectiveness of toothpaste on a pimple. Use a little toothpaste on the pimple before bed and allow it to stay overnight then wash it off in the morning. You will see a significant reduction in the size and swelling of the pimple.

Tomato

Tomato is high in antioxidants and acts as an amazing natural astringent to treat inflamed pimples. Just dab a little tomato juice on the affected area and allow it to stay on for about 20 minutes before you wash it off.

Garlic

Garlic has antiviral, antifungal, antiseptic and antioxidant properties, which can help treat pimples. Freshly cut garlic can effectively help heal pimples quickly. Cut up fresh garlic and rub it on your pimples for five minutes before washing your skin with lukewarm water. Repeat this routine several times to keep your skin pimple free.

Honey: 

Honey is a very useful and beneficial in a lot of ways, though a added sweetener you can actually use to cure ande care for that acute acne and pimples. Add a little portion of honey on a cotton bud. Add a little of lemon. Then place on the affected part where there is acne/pimples. Leave for 15minutes. Then wash off with Luke warm water. A consistent use if this process at least twice daily within 2weeks will give you that glow and fresh free acne/pimple skin.

Turmeric: 

Turmeric can be taken orally or applied externally. It has been found to be high in anti-oxidant. It is essential to use in little concentration if you intend to go out into the Sun within 48hours of its application. However, turmeric mixed with a little water then applied to the skin will do the magic of getting rid of acne/pimples.

I hope you try this and let us know what your outcome were. Don't forget to Share, Comment and Like!

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Men Cheat, Women are Materialistic... Is it True?

Happy weekend to you, you and you. I hope the weekend is going as it were planned, if not... take a seat and read on as I bring to you another interesting write-up in our relationship and life segment. 

Am sure you are conversant with the statement:

“ALL men are chronically unfaithful.”
“Women are materialistic.”

These are two of the most common phrases in any conversation about relationships in all over the world. I’m exploring the validity of those statements.

While majority of  men complain about the materialism of today's modern women, apparently our women are totally consumed with thoughts of money; of course not all men cares about cash, well i think some still do.

Haven been opportune to visit other continent and meet with people of diverse race, ethnic and belief. I realise that the perception on Love and money in a relationship does not differ at all. For instance, in Nigeria where I am from, they’ll tell you that a Nigerian girl, especially the Lagos girl, falls in love with your wallet before she even looks at you. When I first heard this complaint, I felt so bad for our men. Poor kiddos, how could they cope dealing with these greedy materialistic girls? I mean I know I’ve definitely judged Nigerian girls harshly. College girls from struggling families have two hundred and fifty thousand Naira (plus) weaves, the latest smartphones, and expensive trips abroad, I know it’s their pocket-money doing all that. As I’ve grown older, I’ve gotten kinder, and less judgmental(here’s hoping though).

On the flip side, Nigerian women moan about the legendary infidelity of Nigerian men, Nigerian men can’t be trusted. Listening to the variety of stories about the men is absolutely petrifying; some get engaged to two women at the same time, others take mistresses on their honeymoon, placing them in the same hotel as their wives, while others maintain two families or sleep with the maids and nannies. Unfortunately, these stories are not fiction; we all have a few of them in our families or our close circle of friends. It’s enough to make a girl reconsider getting into this thing called marriage.

Even though I do not want to be judgmental, I  had experiences that have made me rethink who gets the blame in this messy situation. Recently a friend was talking about setting up a close friend of ours; apparently he had a number of single friends who would be ideal for her (Shola). Call me a skeptic, but I was surprised that he knew so many people who Shola could have fulfilling relationships with, not because she is difficult or anything of course. His answer was that they all had really well-paying jobs. Now don’t get me wrong, I would not want my to be with an ambition-less pauper, but I think there are many other qualities beyond a well-paying job that make someone a potential partner, like that pesky thing called compatibility. However, in his experience security is the first thing a Nigerian girl asks about.

Its also no surprise that, even while I was in Nigeria several years back, hustling the street of Abuja as a naive marketer, I’ve been on the receiving end of Nigerian men both young and old trying to throw money at me. Yet when you refuse their blatant offerings, and try to find out more about them, they are uncooperative but they’ll complain about materialistic women. I’ve heard multiple times that the majority of Nigerian women are unintelligent and unable to have decent conversations. This is generally said as a back-handed compliment to me, others in the same vein say things like “you have beauty and brains”, as though the two are incompatible. Apparently women just talk about movies, celebrities and make-up. Hearing this you would think these men are coming up with the solutions to Syria and Nigeria’s problems in their daily chats, lol!. Nah, generally they are discussing football, PS3 and if you are lucky, how to make money. I find these comments extremely insulting and not flattering in the least. I for one have never noticed a marked deficit in female intelligence among my friends and casual acquaintances, if the only women they encounter are unintelligent, the problem might be with their selection criteria not women in general. I’ve had as many terrible conversations with men as with women. This paragraph is brought on by a recent experience I had on a “date”, my date asked a question regarding some of my future academic pursuits. As I began to answer the question with the seriousness I felt it deserved, I noticed he wasn’t paying attention; he was looking down and chatting on his phone, how rude. This was the same guy who had previously commented on the lack of intelligent conversations. Ironic eh?

I’ve spent a good bit of time considering both angles and I’ve reached a conclusion, it’s truthfully a chicken and the egg situation. Are the women materialistic because they realize that’s all they can depend on the men for? Are the men unfaithful because they are with women who choose them for only for what’s in their pocket? Do men present the situation to be used through their own laziness? They rather flash their bank cards than spend time courting a women learning about her interests and what makes her tick. Do women simply utilize the opportunities presented to them by men? Are both men and women simply not just using each other?

After interacting with men and women, both at home and abroad. I’ve decided that this system is mutually beneficial for the active players. The men get bought women who are so desperate for money that they’ll do anything to stroke their man’s ego. These women will turn a blind eye to all their misbehavior, and accept crappy treatment from them. The women on their part have embraced the ideology of “it’s as easy to love a rich man as a poor man.” As long as they are kitted out in the latest designers, get to travel abroad and drive nice cars, life is good. I only feel bad for those who are genuinely searching for love, for that person that completes them. 60%  are looking to be married just to be, 30% consider marriage to be their meal ticket and the remaining 10% (probably an overly generous estimate) are sincerely searching for love. Yes, these statistic are just randomly thrown out from my brain, but I don’t think the results would be different if I performed a rigorous scientific study. I’d love to hear if y’all agree or disagree.

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WHAT'S IN A DIAMOND?

I recently read an article titled “Diamonds Are A Sham And It’s Time We Stop Getting Engaged With Them”. You can’t imagine my shock and anger when I read that piece. I agree with the comment of one of the readers; he/she said “this is like the guys who say valentines are a sham as an excuse to not be nice to their lady on the day”. In summary, the entire article tried to portray how buying or “investing” in diamonds is bad business and has no intrinsic value. Some valid points were made regarding this topic and some had no head at all.

Here is a link to the article,http://au.businessinsider.com/why-diamonds-are-a-sham-2013-3 read and let us know what you think. But these are my responses as to why I don’t agree with that write up;

First of all, let me quote Warren Buffet”I’ve never regretted buying diamonds” and he added “they are a good investment!”  (http://borsheimsbrk.com/tag/salesman/page/3).

1. Pricing and Market: When it comes down to diamonds, there are two major factors that affects its price one of which is common to a lot of people the 4C’s – Color, Carat, Cut and Clarity; but people forget to consider the supply of diamonds as another major factor. The article also indicated on how there are irregularities in the market for diamonds due to the mining monopoly by De Beers. This is not entirely true. Agreed De Beers owned a huge share of the market, and there is no market floor to trade for diamonds per gram unlike other precious metals like gold. However, the industry has opened up so much more since the 1870’s and there are more industry players now. Also the industry makes use of price guides from Rapaport Diamond Report, PriceScope, Ajediam Antwerp Diamonds Monthlyand The Gem Guide, which are published weekly, monthly or quarterly and can be accessed online by any individual. Also I would like to bring to your attention that, “on August 7, 2012, the USPTOgranted a patent on a process that classifies Investment Grade Diamonds for commercial trading and financial investments,the precursor for diamonds being a publicly traded asset class. As a result, a Physically Backed Diamond ETF is currently under US Securities and Exchange CommissionRegistration and is anticipated to be available on the NASDAQ Stock Market by 2014.” – Wikipedia. ((Take a cue guys. If I were you, I would start thinking of how invest against next year)).
2. Certified All The Way: I always tell my clients this; whenever you are purchasing diamond jewelry, make sure to get certified diamond jewelry. And not just certified by any institution but by GIA or IGI. GIA preferably (Gemological Institute of America). Why you may ask! You need that from an investment stand point. Certified diamonds have more credibility when presented to a manufacturer for “recycle” or resale. A GIA certified diamond clearly states its 4C’s, if it’s a lab generated or natural diamond, treated or non-treated etc. All these properties are very important to be known by the buyer before purchase as they affect the price of the diamond. With a certification you know the value of what you have in terms of properties. Because the cuts, polishing and processing of a diamond can raise its price without raising its value. Also it should be noted that about 90% of all purchased diamonds are not certified. It’s important you request for certification no matter how much you spend on them ($300, $100, $50,000 whatever).
3. The Law of Supply and Demand: Let me not bore you with economics, I’m sure we all know what the law is. The demand for diamonds keeps increasing at a rate of 7% every year. But its supply isn’t growing as fast, 5% per year. So obviously, we can tell how that would affect the prices of diamonds. For a new diamond mine to get into full operation and production mode it would take approximately between 7 to 8 years from the date of its actual discovery. The Argyle mine in Australia produces over 90% of the world’s pink diamonds and currently has a life span 4 to 6years before it runs out of supply. No new discovery for this type of diamond has been found yet. Some dealers of fancy colored diamonds have claimed that they have never seen the market for colored diamonds go down in 30 years. So obviously you can tell that the prices for diamonds would continue to be in the high, increasing its investments value. Unless the laws of supply and demand are wrong.
4. Round Diamonds: Studies have shown that more people prefer to buy round brilliant cut diamonds. Why? Well the cut of a round brilliant cut is mathematically defined to produce maximum reflection and internal refraction of light. The round brilliant cut produces the greatest amount of fire, scintillation and brilliance compared to other fancy cuts, that’s why it’s more popular and wiser to invest in. Consumers understand that diamonds are the world’s hardest material, but few understand that diamonds can fracture or break. Yes they can. A fracture on a diamond can be corrected but it would automatically reduce its value. Round brilliant cuts are less likely to do this. For instance a fancy cut stone say an emerald cut, can be damaged if there’s a sharp blow to its table (the large flat facet on top) which can cause the diamond to fracture.  Also, the pointed corners of square cornered fancy cuts are more prone to damage.  On the other hand, round brilliant cuts are less likely to fracture, because of its structural design which has a specified depth below the table. Like all diamonds, its edges can chip, but it is less likely to fracture compared to some fancy cuts. So if you plan on investing, rounds are the way to go.
5. Others: Like as every other investment requires patience, so does investing in diamonds. Always note that international politics and economics always affect investments worldwide. Nevertheless, invest cautiously and be prepared to take reasonable and quick actions by watching yearly trends. Also have the guide of an accredited jewelry professional or graduate gemologist before making decisions on diamond purchase/investment.

 

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Volunteering Opportunity in Africa

I was reading through some pages on the Internet when I stumbled on this, I believe it's not by sheer luck seeing this,  but the need to create the awareness that might benefit someone out there who might find this information useful. So here is it: 

Mohispac Foundation (www.mohispacfoundationtz.or.tz) is inviting you to explore the volunteer opportunities currently open within its organisation. They believe that it is with your skills and experience and your commitment to volunteering that we help grow the source of humanity (as to volunteer is an humanity and Gods glory). 

The Volunteering will be in the great city of Dar-es-salaam in Tanzania while other placement are also available in Kilimanjaro, Pwani and Tanga the areas where the organisation operates. 

FOR WHOM

The organisation is looking for volunteers to contribute their time and skills in: Teaching, Building, Medical services, Environmental conservation, Sports and life skills. A unique chance to become part of a real African community and learn the cultural skills and language of the local people.

Tanzania Volunteer Program is open to all: individuals, couples, families, students, researchers, and groups (churches, colleges, companies ,organization and student associations).

As such, there is no limit in terms of age, sex and background to make a big difference to a small but vibrant community. Volunteers are welcome from different cultural and ethnic backgrounds.

ABOUT MOHISPAC FOUNDATION

"When you make the decision to help us in supporting and promoting volunteerism, at our Organization in Tanzania. We value our relationships with all of our stakeholders and you, our potential volunteer, can play a key role in building a state of excellence". 

According to the spoke person he says "the foundation works directly with the projects where volunteers are send to where their contribution will make a real and meaningful difference. Therefore, the help of international volunteers is greatly needed and appreciated for both professional and non professional are warmly welcome to cross the finger together to save people who are in needy.

As a volunteer in the orphanage program, you will be involved in teaching English and other subjects as well as helping them with their homework. You will also help the orphans to understand the importance of hygiene, sanitation and good manners.

Additional activities include help in organizing creative activities like games, painting, drawing, and maintaining the compound and orphanage buildings.

VOLUNTEER HEALTH PROGRAM

Help facilitate a better quality of life for people in Tanzania when you volunteer with the Health Program in Tanzania. The health volunteers improve the quality and availability of healthcare services, and strengthen the skills of health professionals in disadvantaged communities. For example: doctors, midwives, nurses, public health officials.As a volunteer in this program, you will be helping local residents who cannot afford proper health care. Volunteers in the health program help conduct nutrition workshops, work in a community health clinics and hospitals and provide medical and dental treatment at the public and at the private clinics. 

EDUCATION

The education volunteers will work with colleagues locally, helping them to improve their teaching and leadership methodologies and practices. Volunteers on the teaching program in Tanzania assist with the teaching of different subjects in primary and high schools.

Volunteer teachers can teach mathematics, science, geography, social sciences, history, business education, English, art and music. 

ENGINEERING AND TECHNICAL

– The technical volunteers will share their technical skills both in the workplace as well as in education institutes and colleges. For example: electricians, irrigation engineers, vocational trainers.

COMMUNICATION 

– communications volunteers generate creative solutions that nurture organizational growth. For example: fundraisers, marketing advisors, communication specialists. 

HIV and AIDS 

– HIV and AIDS volunteers offer practical healthcare, support advocacy initiatives, network with local government, and raise awareness and money for projects working in the area of HIV and AIDS. For example: HIV/AIDS health professionals and program managers.

NATURAL RESOURCES 

– natural resources volunteers offer support in small business development, marketing and financial planning, and in technical skills such as coastal resource management, horticulture and agriculture. For example: agribusiness, agricultural specialists, animal science, horticulture.

BUSINESS 

– While business volunteers assist small and medium-sized businesses by helping them to improve income generation and/or to become sustainable. For example: business managers, IT professionals, project managers.

COMMUNITY AND SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT

– The community positions are varied, but all work towards the common goal of bettering people’s lives and bringing about social change. For example: physiotherapists, speech therapists, social researchers, social workers.

Volunteer Tanzania » Accommodation & Meals 

Volunteers stay with host families. The volunteer rooms are comfortable and may be shared with 1 or 2 other volunteers. Accommodation is usually within walking, cycling or a short bus ride from the project. Three meals per day are provided.

The programs are flexible and volunteers can arrive and depart on any day all year round.

Volunteer in Mohispac Foundation Program Costs 

Application Fee: USD $100.00. Application fee covers administration, program information, communication and the cost of collection from the airport.

Cost for 1 weeks or less $100.00 Cost for 3 weeks $270.00 Cost for 1 month $480.00 Cost for 3 months $1,30.00 Cost for 4 months $1,600.00 Cost for 5 months $1670.00 Cost for 6 months $1740.00.

The volunteer in Tanzania costs you need to meet are: Your flight to and from the country, visa fees, work permits (the cost of this has now been raised from USD$120 to USD$500 per person), vaccinations, travel insurance, return trip to the airport, and airport taxes. You will also need a weekly budget of around US$70 to cover your expenses like bottle of water, personal costs, public transport, beverages and entertainment. The foundation will organize tours to all her (16 National parks,Mount Kilimanjaro the highest mountain in Africa and the second one after Himalaya mountains)where volunteers will discover all about Tanzania.

Volunteer Application -

The Application form is available at via the volunteer at page below:(www.mohispacfoundationtz.or.tz ).You may print it out and mail it back after filling it out and submit it (the volunteer application form)

For more information and inquires contact:

-Rev Nziacharo Makenya

(Executive Director)

Mohispac Foundation

B0x 77624 -Dar, Tanzania.

Call: +255716876742/758888193

Email :mmohispacf@yahoo.com

www.envaya.org/mof or www.mohispacfoundationtz.or.tz

Volunteering helping and saving a thr world for better humanity...

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Single Pringles: Why Am I Still Single!

Why hello there. It’s been away for some time now and am sure you all have notice that I have not been able to upload as much as I normally would. My apologies really. I’m even tired of making apologies but thing is I’ve been mad busy with life, school, studies, family avoiding getting arrested and/or beat up and organizing some New trends i want to add to this blog titled the “Letters To My Ex” series. It promises to be nice and interesting... Just stay tune

So yeah, sooner than later or maybe later when I get it all wrapped up, you will read it here first). Today however, I want to address a different issue on my weekend Trillz series 

address: different issue

LOOOOOOOOOOOL..I’m really so funny.

No?

Not even a bit?

If you’ve been reading my stuff here of recent, you will note I’ve been writing quite a lot on relationships. I don’t even know why o, it’s not like I’m like @8plus9 or @thetoolsman that are experienced in these matters. It however might be because I’ve been reading their stuff a whole lot and they are influencing my thought process. Shut up! I say again. hehehehe. But I will focusing more to the guys today! 

Anyway today, I got wondering and I don’t do that often but when I do, I really do. So I sat there and asked my self a question, I said “Self!” Self was like “yeah?” I’m like “Self, why do we have so much single around ?” and self was like “you should ask yourself” and i looked at self like O_o , “I’m asking you though, why you asking me to ask myself?”, Self got all defensive and raised his voice by itself and was like “Why are you asking you? I said you should ask yourself!”

So that discussion berthed this topic: Ask YOURSELF, why are you single?

Now I’m going to attempt to answer this question from different viewpoints, I may or may not be wrong and you might find that you belong to one or more of the categories. I don’t know.

- You’re Ugly.

See yeah, who makes the yardstick for what is ugly and what isn’t ugly?Who set the standards for beauty? Isn’t beauty in the eyes of the beholder? Aren’t Segoon Arinze, Bola Tinorbu and Razerk Awkoya married. The people that married them, do they not know beauty when they see it? Look if your excuse for being single is because you’re ugly, then you need to wake up from that thought, remove the tree trunk in your eye and find the woman that loves you for what..sorry, who you are. Facial constitution is not a barrier to love. That area boy that doesn’t even brush daily and looks like a rumpled paper from a 2B note still has one babe that calls him ‘onny’ on the regs. My friend, gather up your balls and walk up to that lady. Let your inner beauty speak for you! Let your charm and charisma sweep her off her feet! Let the baritone of your voice cause a dam to burst open in the region between her thighs! Let…ok, I’m getting carried away. You get my drift.

1- You don’t have money.

So you’re the type of nigga that sets off bank alarms when you pass by becuase even the building can smell your broke ass from miles away. I mean, you’re so broke you don’t even get credit alerts simply because there’s no money to debit you from. But you love some babe, however you’ve been told that relationships are expensive and you need some finance to maintain the fuel of love. Let me tell you brethren; Money should not stop you from commiting to a woman. Look, do you think the Lord cannot bless you with a woman that is willing to ignore the absence of money? Oh? OH? I can hear the murmurings. Look my nigga, I’d have said ignore the things you see in Nollywood movies but I remembered your ass can’t even afford a TV. so yeah, here’s what you do: Find yourself a rich babe. HOW? I don’t know abeg.

2-You’re a Player.

Most guys today are single simply because they already have what they want. Do you know the pleasure that comes with having access to watch DSTV when you want without paying subscription? No aunty, tell me why that guy will commit to you when he’s already finished work? So yeah, guys have noticed that they can play trial matches for different clubs before deciding which club they’ll permanently join. So rather than put their all into impressing at the trials, they put up an average performances. These guys eventually get to the point where they realize that there’s more to life than playing but this realization might take forever. Be there forming player up and down o, continue. Until your mates all settle down and the only settling you’re doing is on your couch, eating regrets out of a paper bag while tears stream down your face. No continue…

3-You’re Handsome. 

 Unlike the ugly ones, this group actually believe that they’re God’s gift to women. They feel like they were sculpted from the fabric of beauty itself. These guys walk abi float and act like they dont even shit. if they shit sef, their shit don’t stink. Their shit is probably what mars bars are made from. Enough of this shit. So yeah, they wait for the perfect woman that complements their looks but the snag is that they lack so much in personality, sense, manners and the basic things that make up a normal human being. Can you tell i’m pissed at their shit? Look, its not like I’m not fine. I mean, on a scale of 0 – Idrils Elba, I’m probably a Taye Diggs (yeah he does look like me) but yeah…You better stop deceiving yourself up and down, you think all the “OMG! You’re so fine” you get on IG make you some sort of superstar. My nigga, humble yourself and let the Lord exhalt you…or not. By the way, opposites attract, I’m just saying.

4- Your Member is too big.

You’re actually a humanitarian because you’re considering the damage you will wreck if you attempt to put your baton inside her. This is why you’re single. I mean, people don’t appreciate what you’re doing because they don’t understand  but it’s ok my nigga. Your type is rare. Keep doing you. (Yes I mean masturbating). More grease to your…palms?

5- You’re Ugly and Broke . 

Brother, relationship is not for everyone 1 cor 7:8. Oops did I just say that? ;(

6-You’re The Reserve One

Well, I’m sure I haven’t exhausted all the reasons. There are likely more reasons why you’re single. Maybe because you’re waiting for a prticular babe to break up, maybe you don’t believe in dating before marriage (ehm, yes ke) or maybe you’ve just decided that you want to be an eunuch or something. If you’re single, please share your reasons and feel free to add more using the comments box. 

The “un-singles” are welcome too.

Have a lovely weekend!

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Marriage: To be Endured or Enjoyed, Whats Your Take?

It is a  noticeable trend that most singles are gradually slipping out of that idea of having a perfect relationship or a long lasting relationship or marriage or simply having a happy marriage.

They already have a preconception that all guys or ladies cheat and have already given their boyfriends, girlfriends or spouses that blank cheque of cheating and not to disappoint them, he or she makes full withdrawal.

Our values are changing, and our expectations from what God designed to be a bliss are being degraded.

Young people are opting for celibacy. They'll rather stay single that end up in that kinda marriage they find in the society. Happy today, punching bags the next. Couples are often changing to clients seeking divorce. This isn't God's blueprint.

I know people who are married and I 'believe' they are happy. They are the ones who don't tell you all men/women are cheats. They tell you marriages work. I'm not leaving out the fact that some people hide all their issues so well. There is just how far you can go hiding some things. If there is no love it will surely manifest.

All these ideas we already have are a result of our personal experiences. The marriages we have seen around us. It could even be our parents or what they have told us and made us believe about the concept of marriage.

What's your motive for getting married?

The question of purpose/motive is one question we fail to answer with respect to the things we do in life even asides marriage. When the purpose or use of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable.

People go into marriages for the very wrong reasons or without having a good idea of why they are there.

I've heard people say they are old enough. If only age was enough to make you have a happy home. Although in our society, the pressure mounts (esp on ladies) as they approach their 30s.

Two people can't work together except they agree. But its sad that people go into marriages without an agreement on how they'll handle things. How they'll resolve issues. The leave the decision to 'when we get to the bridge, we'll cross it'

Sadly they both have personal bridge-crossing ideas and they are not willing to change. Knowing fully well that both parties were trained differently as they grew up.

Domestic violence, divorce, cheating are not part of God's plan for the marriage institution.
These days, couples easily go down that divorce road. Infact they have had it at the back of their mind before they even got into the marriage. 

It might not be a bed of roses. Even if it is remember beyond the floral parts of the rose, there exists thorns which can prick if not well handled.

God wants you to enjoy your marriage!

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Ladies: Issues That Could Prevent Singles From Getting Married!

In this part of the world many ladies might end up singles for life for numerous reasons. Major among these are:

1. Media exposure. - It is so disheartening how a lady will glue her eyes on a mobile phone from morning till night, only to raise it up to focus on TV to watch another celebrity entertainment channel. Tell, what else will dominate this lady’s mindset aside how to live a fake celebrity life being promoted on television channels?

2. Dislike For Cooking And Home Chores. - These days, many African ladies dislike cooking and home chores just because they have been totally brainwashed by movies showcasing men playing the role of women in a family, and due to excessive exposure to modern media that promotes gender-equality in a destructive manner,  aimed at destroying the unique African family setting that made our previous African marriages everlasting and envious to the western world. Now, with this attitude, how do you expect a African man to desire to marry when he knows he is only 'buying' more headache and trouble than helper for himself?

3. Excessive makeup. - This often turn most decent and serious-minded men off.  Most men see ladies who wear excessive makeup as prostitutes or wayward. A slight makeup is okay; try always to look simple and natural, it will attract better men, decent and serious-minded, except you are still living in your high school life and not thinking towards marriage.

4. Stop Giving Your Number Out To Every Joystick & Harry - No man would want to propose marriage to a lady whose phone is always talking and laughing with unserious calls. You may not be a playgirl, but he would judge you as one, and will likely flee at the slightest chance or disagreement.

5. You Don’t Bring Any Value Into The Life Of The Men You Date - because your best friend married without contributing anything to the man that finally married her, doesn’t mean it will work for you that way. Think, work towards equipping yourself so that you can be of value and also add value to his life to convince him that you are worth committing to. Adding value to his life isn’t by giving him money, or material gifts, nope….good counsels, being his best friend, helping him attain his goals in life, lending him moral, mental and spiritual support, and by not just being a liability that only bring requests and problems to be solved.

6. Your Friends Run Your Life. How do you expect to find a husband when you still allow your clique of friends to be dictating which man you meet, is worthy of your love and which is not? When will you wake up and face the fact that those your best friends even though they cherish you, wouldn’t want you to marry before them or to marry the best man?

7. You Package Yourself Wrongly- in your attempt to look sexy, adorable and maybe appealing to guys, you have derailed from appealing to appalling. In fact you look more whorish than modest; more distractive than attractive, and more disgusting than adorable. Your dressing style determines who gets attracted to you most times. If you dress high school, only high school-thinking guys will be attracted to you, and if you dress excessively sexy and provocative, only randy men will come to you for urgent satisfaction of their immediate s*x urge, so don’t be fooled by media hyping of certain kinds of dressing, they are meant for certain set of ladies you wouldn’t like to be associated with, be careful. Remember, not all clothes that look sexy are good for a seriously searching for a soul mate single lady.

8. You Lack Manner, Character, Wisdom and Good Home Upbringing- definitely, your ‘hot girl’, ‘pretty girl’, ‘sexy girl’ looks will win you so many men; both the good, and the bad, but your inner beauty, your character and manner are the things that will determine whether any of those men would stay or run after accomplishing their evil missions. In order words, do away with nagging, being possessive, challenging with men in negative ways, the mentality of ‘what a man can do a woman can do better’, a lie devil has used to deceive and destroy so many ladies today, please do away with it. 

Source: Before And After Marriage

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